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Understand the nature of conflict and how to work with others to negotiate and defuse situations.

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‘Why Do I Always Get Them?’ (Customer Service) (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 75 minutes.

Aims:
• To encourage participants to consider the difference between good and bad customer service.
• To encourage participants to consider the behaviours that those who deliver good customer service demonstrate.
• To consider strategies for avoiding or managing customer conflict.

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Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 30 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 75 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To encourage participants to consider the difference between good and bad customer service.
• To encourage participants to consider the behaviours that those who deliver good customer service demonstrate.
• To consider strategies for avoiding or managing customer conflict.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Anyone in a customer facing role.

You'll Need:
• A Trainers’ Library membership that includes the option to stream this video or you can purchase a DVD from Trainers' Library.

Notes:
This module is designed to accompany the Glasstap film, ‘Why Do I Always Get Them?’

This exercise involves a look at customer service, particularly in relation to face-to-face contact, managing difficult situations and conflict.

The second exercise can be run as a post-training activity to be completed individually, if you need to reduce the time required for this module.

If your level of membership doesn’t include the option to stream this video, you can purchase a digital copy.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Dealing with Aggressive Behaviour (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 50 minutes.

Aims:
• To help participants develop guidelines for dealing assertively with aggressive behaviour.
• To introduce the fogging technique as one way to assertively respond to aggressive behaviour.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 25 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 50 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To help participants develop guidelines for dealing assertively with aggressive behaviour.
• To introduce the fogging technique as one way to assertively respond to aggressive behaviour.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
We recommend using this module only when participants are able to recognise the difference between aggressive, submissive and assertive behaviour. (See the module, What is Assertiveness?.)

This module has two alternative handouts – one with work-based scenarios to discuss, and one with non-work-based scenarios.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Difficult Conversations - And How to Plan for Them (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 45 minutes.

Aims:
• To show participants a five-step model that will help them establish the need for a difficult conversation and plan for a successful outcome.

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Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 15 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 45 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To show participants a five-step model that will help them establish the need for a difficult conversation and plan for a successful outcome.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Anyone.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (not required).
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Difficult Conversations 1 - Why They Need Thinking About (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 60 minutes.

Aims:
• To identify the types of conversations that people find difficult.
• To explore the potential consequences of avoiding difficult conversations, managing them badly and of managing them effectively.
• To understand the importance of thinking about the purpose of a difficult conversation and preparing for it before it happens.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 25 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 60 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To identify the types of conversations that people find difficult.
• To explore the potential consequences of avoiding difficult conversations, managing them badly and of managing them effectively.
• To understand the importance of thinking about the purpose of a difficult conversation and preparing for it before it happens.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels, but particularly managers.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Difficult Conversations 2 - Planning and Preparation (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 45 minutes.

Aims:
• To help participants prepare for conversations they find difficult and approach them in a way that is more likely to achieve a positive outcome.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 20 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 45 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To help participants prepare for conversations they find difficult and approach them in a way that is more likely to achieve a positive outcome.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels but particular managers.

You'll Need:
• To remind participants to bring the questions they produced in Difficult Conversations 1 – Why They Need Thinking About, if you used this session, or send them Handout 1 in advance of the training session if you haven’t.

Notes:
The exercise in this session involves splitting the group into small teams. However, if you have 5 or fewer participants, you can keep them together in one team, in which case a breakout room is not essential.

This module can also be used as the basis for a 1:1 coaching exercise/discussion.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required - see Notes).

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Difficult Conversations 3 - Using Constructive Language (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 60 minutes.

Aims:
• To help participants conduct difficult conversations using language that is more likely to achieve a positive outcome for all.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 35 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 60 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To help participants conduct difficult conversations using language that is more likely to achieve a positive outcome for all.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels and managers in particular.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided, though participants should be encouraged to bring the handouts from the earlier sessions on this topic if you’ve run them.

Notes:
This module is a natural follow on to Difficult Conversations 1 – Why They Need Thinking About and Difficult Conversations 2 – Planning and Preparation.

This module can be used as the basis for a 1:1 coaching exercise/discussion.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Difficult Conversations 4 - Practical Application (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 60 minutes.

Aims:
• To give participants the opportunity to practise planning and preparing for a difficult conversation.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 40 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 60 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To give participants the opportunity to practise planning and preparing for a difficult conversation.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels and managers in particular.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided, though participants should be encouraged to bring the handouts and work from earlier sessions.

Notes:
This module is a follow up to Difficult Conversations 1-3, and a natural conclusion to those. It reviews the previous work, introduces a structure for difficult conversations and provides a practical opportunity to plan for a real situation.

The activity can be run as a remote training session, with participants working in pairs.

However, if you prefer, you could brief participants by email and run this as a post training activity to be completed back in the workplace. If used in this way, we suggest you review each participant’s work in a follow up 1:1 coaching session.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Facing up to Challenges - Assertiveness Role-Play (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 60 minutes.

Aims:
• To provide participants with an opportunity to practise responding assertively to a range of situations.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 20 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 60 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To provide participants with an opportunity to practise responding assertively to a range of situations.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
This activity is designed to be used as a conclusion to training around assertive behaviour and is suitable for staff at all levels. It provides participants with an opportunity to practise responding assertively to a range of situations – whether with managing upwards, dealing with peers and colleagues or in personal situations.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms.

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Flenda’s Tale - Understanding Our Impact on the Behaviour of Others (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 20 minutes.

Aims:
• To help participants understand the impact of their behaviours on others and the part they can play in developing and improving difficult relationships at work.

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Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 10 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 20 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To help participants understand the impact of their behaviours on others and the part they can play in developing and improving difficult relationships at work.

Group Size:
This module can be used with individuals as well as groups of up to 12 participants.

Useful For:
Everyone who interacts with others at work.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

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Introduction to Transactional Analysis (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 60 minutes.

Aims:
• To provide participants with a way of understanding behaviour and improving communication.
• To provide a very basic introduction to transactional analysis.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 30 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 60 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To provide participants with a way of understanding behaviour and improving communication.
• To provide a very basic introduction to transactional analysis.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff up to junior managers.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
This module is intended to provide a very simple introduction to transactional analysis, a theory developed by Eric Berne in the 1950s. If you are not familiar with transactional analysis you will need to read through all the notes carefully plus the additional material in the handout.

Go through the exercises on your own first so that you can see the rationale. If you have time, try to observe the different types “in play” in your own interactions with people.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (essential).
• Breakout Rooms (recommended for larger groups).

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Island of Opportunity - A Test of Negotiation Skills (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 90 minutes.

Aims:
• To demonstrate the importance of building a clear understanding of needs and feelings in negotiation, through effective questioning and listening.
• To show the importance of separating people and personalities from the problems.
• To show the value of a shared problem/creative solution finding approach to negotiation.
• To provide an opportunity to practise negotiation, teamwork and problem solving skills.

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Time:
This game can be played in about 60 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion and evaluation, we recommend allowing 90 minutes.

Aims:
• To demonstrate the importance of building a clear understanding of needs and feelings in negotiation, through effective questioning and listening.
• To show the importance of separating people and personalities from the problems.
• To show the value of a shared problem/creative solution finding approach to negotiation.
• To provide an opportunity to practise negotiation, teamwork and problem solving skills.

Skills and Behaviours Tested:
Negotiation skills, communication, leadership, teamwork and collaboration, and problem solving.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels who are involved in negotiating, but managers in particular.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided, but you might want to consider pre-assigning participants to their tribe and providing tribe members with their team brief and the island map in advance of the training session.

Notes:
It’s best to run this exercise module without too much explanation. This exercise has many different potential solutions – the learning comes from the experience of trying to find one that all parties can agree to.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Miss-Communication (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 45 minutes.

Aims:
• To show participants how we all interpret information differently.

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Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 25 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 45 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To show participants how we all interpret information differently.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It is not suitable for 1-1 use.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels.

You'll Need:
• Participants will need access to at least two sheets of plain A4 paper, a black marker pen or biro and, ideally, some coloured pens or pencils.

Notes:
This is a fun way to explore how we all see things differently. We recommend a minimum of 5 participants for this module to work well.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms.

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Questions to Probe, Explore and Challenge (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 40 minutes.

Aims:
• To demonstrate the importance of open questions when exploring problems.
• To encourage participants to identify effective open questions for challenging blocks and assumptions.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 15 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 40 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To demonstrate the importance of open questions when exploring problems.
• To encourage participants to identify effective open questions for challenging blocks and assumptions.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff levels of Supervisor and above.

You'll Need:
Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
Participants will need to be aware of question types and be able to recognise the difference between open, closed, leading and hypothetical questions. A remote delivery module that explains different types of questions is Types of Question - Recognising the Differences.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (optional).
• Breakout Rooms (essential).

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Repeatedly Difficult People - And How To Deal With Them

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 45 minutes.

Aims:
• To increase participants awareness of how their response to difficult behaviour might encourage it.
• To identify strategies for managing difficult behaviour that doesn’t reward the behaviour or lead to conflict.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 25 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 45 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To increase participants awareness of how their response to difficult behaviour might encourage it.
• To identify strategies for managing difficult behaviour that doesn’t reward the behaviour or lead to conflict.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
You might like to prepare the ground for this module with Understanding and Managing Emotions.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (not required).
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Revolting Restaurant - Teamwork and Conflict Resolution

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 80 minutes.

Aims:
• To give participants insight into the destructive nature of a blame culture.
• To demonstrate the importance of empathy in conflict resolution.
• To take participants on a journey from conflict to understanding and conflict resolution.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 50 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 80 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To give participants insight into the destructive nature of a blame culture.
• To demonstrate the importance of empathy in conflict resolution.
• To take participants on a journey from conflict to understanding and conflict resolution.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Anyone who needs to work with other teams and/or manages conflict or misunderstanding across teams.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
You’ll need a minimum of 6 participants. This version of the classroom module Restaurant Revolution is adapted for virtual delivery.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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The Anatomy of Conflict (R)

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 60 minutes.

Aims:
• To define conflict.
• To identify the main phases of conflict.
• To enable participants to describe the typical behaviours that are used when conflict is not constructively managed.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 40 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 60 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To define conflict.
• To identify the main phases of conflict.
• To enable participants to describe the typical behaviours that are used when conflict is not constructively managed.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s also suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Anyone who needs to manage conflict and interpersonal relationships.

You'll Need:
• To be ready to send participants the Activity Link and your unique PIN.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (not required).
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Understanding and Managing Emotions

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 45 minutes.

Aims:
• To raise participants’ awareness of their emotional reaction to other people’s behaviour.
• To explore strategies for managing our own and other people’s emotional responses.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 25 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 45 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To raise participants’ awareness of their emotional reaction to other people’s behaviour.
• To explore strategies for managing our own and other people’s emotional responses.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels.

You'll Need:
• Nothing other than the materials provided.

Notes:
We recommend using Google’s Jamboard for this session (https://jamboard.google.com/), but you could use an inbuilt Whiteboard if you prefer.

We’ve included a handout that explains how to use Jamboard.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (not required).
• Breakout Rooms (required).

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Yes But, No But! - Struggles with Assertiveness

Time:
In total we estimate this exercise will take 40 minutes.

Aims:
• To help participants identify situations where they find it difficult to be assertive.
• To encourage participants to consider whether they naturally tend towards aggressive, passive aggressive, submissive or assertive behaviour.
• To encourage participants to reflect on situations where they are more likely to favour a particular behaviour, and why.

About

Time:
The exercise in this module can be completed in about 30 minutes. In total, allowing for discussion, we recommend allowing about 40 minutes for this module.

Aims:
• To help participants identify situations where they find it difficult to be assertive.
• To encourage participants to consider whether they naturally tend towards aggressive, passive aggressive, submissive or assertive behaviour.
• To encourage participants to reflect on situations where they are more likely to favour a particular behaviour, and why.

Group Size:
This module can be used with groups of up to 12 participants. It’s not suitable for 1-1 training.

Useful For:
Staff at all levels.

You'll Need:
• To decide which scenarios to use, and how many, then create a poll for each question you’re going to use, based on the Trainer’s Handout.

Notes:
We suggest choosing about six scenarios to look at from the range provided. You can, of course, replace some or all of our suggestions with your own.

Remote/Virtual Delivery:
Remote Delivery requires a system that as an absolute minimum provides the following functionality:
• Face-to-face discussion.
• Share screen.
• Chat.
• Share files.

In addition, we strongly recommend using a system that provides for:
• Polls/Quizzes (required).

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